Live Like You’ve Never Been Hurt – Part 3: Forgiving Myself

Live Like You’ve Never Been Hurt – Part 3: Forgiving Myself

Forgiving Myself
Live Like You’ve Never Been Hurt – Part 3
September 19-20, 2020
Dr. Jeffrey Allen Love

“For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.” 2 Corinthians 7:10 (p.885)

  • God Has Forgiven Me, I Need To Agree With God.
  1. Allow God to heal my _______________.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think…” Romans 12:2 (p.866)

“…let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.  Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.” Ephesians 4:23-24 (p.897)

  1. Align my new life with His.

“…anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 2 Corinthians 5:17 (p.884) 

“…I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead…” Philippians 3:13 (p.901)                                                                                            

“Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything.” 1 John 3:20 (p.942)

My Next Step: ___ Allow God to heal my __________________.

___ Align my new life with His.

 Discussion/Groups Guide from the Weekend Talk
From the Weekend Talk of September 19-20, 2020
Live Like You’ve Never Been Hurt – Part 3: Forgiving Myself
Lif­e Groups use these questions to go deeper into what we talked about this weekend. Dig into them so you will be ready for the discussion at your Life Group. If you are not in a Group, find out more at
You can also use this guide to discuss the Talk with your family or friends.

Conversation Starters

  • Can you believe we’re just a few days from the start of Fall and the final quarter of the year? There are so many things that have not happened as we thought they would this year.
    • What is one thing that has been BETTER for you this year than you thought it would be?
  • We wrapped up our Talk Series on forgiveness this week. How would you describe forgiveness to a young child?
  • When did you first become aware of the concept of forgiveness?

Qui­­ck Review

  • Looking back at your Talk Notes, was there anything you heard in the service that stood out or maybe even confused you?

Discussion Starters from the Weekend Talk

Refer to the Talk Notes and related Bible verses from this Weekend’s Talk Notes.

  • This week Pastor Jeff Love encouraged us to remember One Thing from this Talk:
    God Has Forgiven Me, I Need To Agree With God.

    • Read 2 Corinthians 7:5-10 (p.885*) Note: Verses 5-9 set up verse 10.
      • What does it mean to agree with God?
      • What did God do to encourage Paul and his fellow workers in 2 Corinthians 7?
        • What news did Titus bring Paul about the Corinthians?
      • What had Paul’s previous letter to the church at Corinth (aka 1 Corinthians) done to the receivers of the message?
        • Why do you think Paul initially was sorry he sent the letter?
      • Verses 9-10 get into the “sorrow” that Jeff talked about. Some translations call it “godly grief.” Have you ever experienced that kind of sorrow?
        • What makes this kind of sorrow a good thing?
        • What is different about “worldly sorrow?”
      • Jeff led us to focus on two actions that will help us “agree with God” about our forgiveness:
  1. Allow God to heal my _______________. (Romans 12:2 (p.866*) and Ephesians 4:23-24 (p.897*))
    • If you feel comfortable doing so, what was your fill-in-the-blank?
    • Have you experienced healing in the past?
    • How are Romans 12:2 and Ephesians 4:23-24 relevant to your ability to let God heal your _____?
    • How have you been transformed (Romans 12:2) as a Follower of Jesus? How has the Spirit renewed your thoughts and attitudes (Ephesians 4:23)?
  2. Align my new life with His. (2 Corinthians 5:14-17 (p.884*), Philippians 3:13 (p.901*) and 1 John 3:19-20 (p.942*))
    • What does Paul point out in 2 Corinthians 5:14-15 that sets up his declaration in verse 17?
      • What changes does Paul point out that are present in the life of a Follower of Jesus?
    • Paul speaks of “looking forward” in Philippians 3:13. The original Greek idea here was “straining” to look forward. Have you ever caught yourself looking backwards when you should be moving forward?
      • When are you most likely to fail to look forward?
    • What does 1 John 3:19-20 say will show we belong to the truth?
      • How will we “stand” before God?

Digging Deeper

Forgiveness is a theme found throughout the Bible. Over this series, we barely scratched the surface of the topic of forgiveness. Here are a few more thoughts about forgiveness from the Baker Encyclopedia of the Bible. Discuss some of these now and/or keep this for your personal study:

In the New Testament, the concept of the unmerited forgiveness of God is extended and intensified by the death of Christ, offered on our behalf. We are all sinners (Romans 3:23), we cannot keep the law or save ourselves (Mark 10:26, 27). This highlights the New Testament teaching that it is in the person of Christ himself that there is forgiveness. He alone has the power to forgive sins (Mark 2:5, 7, 10). It is His death that is redemptive (Matthew 26:28; Mark 10:45) and His blood that is the basis of a new covenant (1 Corinthians 11:25). It is through Him that one can enter into the living experience of forgiveness (Hebrews 9:15, 22). So, forgiveness is inseparable from the proclamation of Jesus Christ (Acts 13:38; Ephesians 1:7; Colossians 1:14; 1 John 2:12).


Next Step

My Next Step: ___ Allow God to heal my __________________.

___ Align my new life with His.

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