The Separation of Church and Hate – Part 2: Humility

The Separation of Church and Hate – Part 2: Humility

The Separation of Church and Hate – Part 2
October 3-4, 2020
Steve Tanner

John 3:30

“Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.”Romans 12:18 (p.866)

“He must become greater and greater, and I must become less and less.” John 3:30 (p.811)

  • God’s Plan Is Bigger Than My Politics.

A case study from Psalm 73.
(Note: Psalm 73 was written by Asaph, a music leader who served under King David.)

“For I envied the proud when I saw them prosper despite their wickedness. They seem to live such painless lives; their bodies are so healthy and strong.” Psalm 73:3-4 (p.446)

  1. When I focus on others I am discouraged.

“Did I keep my heart pure for nothing? Did I keep myself innocent for no reason? I get nothing but trouble all day long; every morning brings me pain.” Psalm 73:13-14 (p.446)

  1. When I focus on myself I am discouraged.

“Yet I still belong to you; you hold my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, leading me to a glorious destiny. My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; he is mine forever.” Psalm 73:23-24, 26 (p.446)

  1. When I focus on God I am encouraged.

To fix my focus on God:

“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” Philippians 2:3-4 (p.900)

Jesus is my ultimate example of humility.

“You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.” Philippians 2:5-8 (p.900)

My Next Step:
_____ Before I speak (or post) I will make sure that I am speaking with the same attitude of humility that Jesus had.

Remembering Jesus through Communion

“[Jesus] got up from the table, took off his robe, wrapped a towel around his waist, and poured water into a basin. Then he began to wash the disciples’ feet.” John 13:4-5a (p.822)

“He took some bread and gave thanks to God for it. Then he broke it in pieces and gave it to the disciples, saying, ‘This is my body, which is given for you. Do this in remembrance of me.’ After supper he took another cup of wine and said,This cup is the new covenant between God and his people—an agreement confirmed with my blood, which is poured out as a sacrifice for you.’” Luke 22:19-20 (p.805)

“Therefore, God elevated him to the place of highest honor and gave him the name above all other names, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue declare that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” Philippians 2:9-11 (p.900)

Discussion/Groups Guide from the Weekend Talk

From the Weekend Talk of October 3-4, 2020
The Separation of Church and Hate – Part 2: Humility

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You can also use this guide to discuss the Talk with your family or friends.

Conversation Starters

  • The goal of this series is to help us respond biblically to the supercharged political culture in which we live. Last week we talked about Civility. How was your week? Did you think more about civility as you went about your daily life? Did you think about your faith before your politics?
  • What does humility look like? What does it NOT look like?
  • Who have you known who is a good example of humility?

Qui­­ck Review

  • Looking back at your Talk Notes, was there anything you heard in the service that stood out or maybe even confused you?

Discussion Starters from the Weekend Talk

Refer to the Talk Notes and related Bible verses from this Weekend’s Talk Notes.

This week Pastor Steve Tanner challenged us to remember One Thing from this Talk:
God’s Plan Is Bigger Than My Politics.

  • Read Romans 12:18 (p.866*) and John 3:22-31 (p.811*).
    • What are some other areas of life we could substitute for the word “politics”?
      • “Preferences?” “Opinions?” Other things that separate us?
    • Does Romans 12:18 guarantee people will live in peace with you?
    • What was happening that caused John the Baptist to make his declaration in verse John 3:30?
    • How can you, in a practical sense, make Jesus “greater and greater?”
    • Do you sometimes find it difficult to make yourself “less and less?” How can you live this out?

Steve walked through a “case study” from Psalm 73 (p.446). It was written by a man named Asaph from the Old Testament. He lived about 1000 years before Jesus and he was a music leader in the service of King David. Asaph went through three phases of focus.

  1. When I focus on others I am discouraged. (Psalm 73:3-12 (p.446*))
    • How does comparing yourself to others in negative ways hurt you?
    • How do you see this happening in our culture?
    • How is this a negative issue related to humility? Aren’t we supposed to think of others? (See below in Philippians 2).
    • When have you found yourself comparing yourself to “them” and “they?”
  2. When I focus on myself I am discouraged. (Psalm 73:13-14 (p.446*))
    • Have you ever felt discouraged because you were too focused on yourself?
    • Have you ever felt like you did all the right things and lived the right way, but it seemed like it was all to no avail?
    • Asaph begins to change his tune in verses 15-22. What changed about his outlook?
  3. When I focus on God I am encouraged. (Psalm 73:23-28 (p.446*))
    • In what ways does Asaph describe his relationship with God?
    • What does he promise to do as a result of his renewed faith?
    • How do you relate to Asaph? What parts of his Psalm resonate loudest with you?

Next, we looked at a Bible passage (Philippians 2:1-11 (p.900*)) that points out our need to live in humility, especially in light of Jesus’ ultimate example given for us.

  • What are some of the outcomes Paul says he wants to see in verses 1-2?
    • Why would these outcomes be important?
  • Identify Paul’s various instructions in verses 3-5.
    • What specific steps can you take to walk successfully in these instructions?
  • When Paul writes verses 6-11 he is most likely quoting an early church hymn that was already known to his readers. Read it together as a group as you celebrate the significance of Jesus being the ultimate example of humility!
    • How does this passage—hymn—inspire you?
    • What does it mean for your personal instructions to live in humility?

Digging Deeper

In Colossians 1:15-23 (p.902*) Paul makes some of the same declarations and instructions he did in Philippians 2:1-11.

  • What are some similarities and differences between these two passages?
  • Identify words or phrases that speak to His deity (the fact He is God).
  • Identify words or phrases that point out His humility?
  • In verses, 20-23 Paul brings His Creation—including us—into the equation.
    • What does he say about us?
    • What encouragement do you get from this part of the passage?

Next Step

My Next Step: _____ Before I speak (or post) I will make sure that I am speaking with the same attitude of humility that Jesus had.

  • A tip for social media: Pray twice. Post once! (You may be familiar with the carpenter’s axiom: “Measure twice. Cut once.”)
  • This weekend we observed Communion at Alive Church. You might want to remember Jesus’ humility by observing Communion together as a group.


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